Flowerly Maua

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Monday, 19 May 2008

Women, very obedient species

"...the FBI had an opening for an assassin. After all the background checks, interviews, and testing were done there were 3 finalists, two men and a woman.

For the final test, the FBI agents took one of the men to a large metal door and handed him a gun.

"We must know that you will follow your instructions no matter what the circumstances. Inside the room you will find your wife sitting in a chair. Kill Her!

The man said, "You can't be serious, I could never shoot my wife." The agent said, "Then you're not the right man for this job. Take your wife and go home."

The second man was given the same instructions. He took the gun and went into the room. All was quiet for about 5 minutes. The man came out with tears in his eyes, "I tried, but I can't kill my wife."

The agent said, "You don't have what it takes. Take your wife and go home."

Finally, it was the woman's turn. She was given the same instructions, to kill her husband. She took the gun and went into the room. Shots were heard, one after another. They heard screaming, crashing, banging on the walls. After a few minutes, all was quiet. The door opened slowly and there stood the woman. She wiped the sweat from her brow.

"This gun is loaded with blanks" she said. "I had to beat him to death with the chair"..."

Author unknown

MORAL OF THE STORY: Women are very determined creatures. Don't mess with them. Regardless of what it is, nothing and no one will stand between them and their dreams, and they are very obedient too.

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Did you know that highly educated women are less likely to get married, and it's not out of choice. According to this, the more women achieve, the less men want to be 'associated' with them.

After reading the article, and relating it to the FBI recruiting, makes me wonder whether this is the reason most of us are very single. Which makes me conclude that to some extent men are very controlling and very insecure species. As times change, women are getting to know what they really want, and despite being turned down by men, they will not settle for anything less than what they think they deserve.

Ama, what do you think?


Anonymous said...

that woman is tough...
and yes Maua, men are very insecure creatures. and i ahev seen this too, everywhere... a highly educated woman is less likely to get married, many examples!
but one thing i also tend to notice is that, some women tend to despise the men after they feel that they are higher 'educationally' hence the choosing and picking, every man that comes their way will be termed as 'not learned'. i know this for a fact coz my best girlfriend this is her phrase!
you know somewtimes i even get worried coz am a higher achiever and i absolute love learning and being so educated, am addicted to it and i want more and more but at the same time i dont wanna be lonely, you get? so i guess its a constant balance adn maybe i think i have to learn how to tame that man and make him know i aint gonna grow wings and fly anywhere just coz am educated.
about the reason of you being single...huh. maybe men see you a s a powerful woman, you belong to yourself, you take care of yourself and a re learned so they are afraid coz they cant manipulate you!
its something to celebrate i guess and a real man does not need to be afraid of such a woman.

Maua said...

@Neema, I don't wanna grow old alone. I guess as I get older, and get more learned and educated, money, wealth etc disappear from my list, and love, peace, considerate, respect, support (not financial,) top the list.

And I don't want a controlling freak either. We belong to God, and ourselves.

Tandra said...

yes.. we belong to God and ourselves. Well stated

KK said...

Well... This man for one is too lazy to click on the link and read the referenced story. I wouldn't mind a learned woman though... even better if she's monied.
Most men I believe want to earn the respect of their wives.... and other men. They do that by achieving greatness in one way or the other and as my mother was fond of quoting... behind every successful man is a successful wife. Now... if the woman is too busy chasing after her own greatness, that by default relegates the man to second place somewhat skewering that original equation. No respect from peeps... or wife for that matter. If the guy goes ahead and succeeds anyway.. he has to convince the world that it was his doing.. and not his wife's.
As for me...(hope all you learned monied women are listening)... I don't mind one bit. I'll be glad to babysit the kids... you still have to bear them though:)

Maua said...

@kk, 'behind every successful man .....', correction, 'infront of every good woman is a successful man', better still besides every successful person is a supportive partner.

I agree that most men want to earn the respect of their wives. Them days women were often left with no respect, self esteem, and certainly no education. But times have changed. We want everything, but we certainly can't have it all.

Get ready, I'm coming, I'll bear the kids and you be the house husband. I'll provide, and I hope we'll live happily ever after. Ama.

Prettylyf said...

I concur with you, Maua. Most of the successful women are unmarried b/c most of us know what it takes to get to where we are and refuse to settle down for less or get put down. I totally agree with this post *nods head in disbelief*

Have a great week!

Wanjiku Unlimited said...

Let's take Caroline Mutoko for example. Yeah that Carol who when discussing police salaries she said that their whole salary is a mere skirt to her. That one who once bought boots for 6k and only wore then once. What would it be like to be married to someone like her?

Sometimes she talks very tough on radio and it's rumoured that no man will come close to her for a serious relationship, maybe a not so serious one. She has some serious cash and let's not even talk about the attitude.

threetypesofcrazy said...

can you believe I was about to say something sensible and then I saw on your "my music" bit- I saw my dudes- BOYZ II MEN and now whatever I wanted to say has evapourated. Let me go drool first.

threetypesofcrazy said...

Okay, I am back. In the bible (I just had to go there)- it says "A man who finds a wife finds a good thing."(somewhere in Proverbs I think). And is it the last chapter in proverbs (proverbs 31.10)- the virtuous woman- that woman is everything - a thinker, banker, hard worker, traveller, business woman. She is an achiever and what does the good book call her- the Virtuous wife.

Maua said...

@tandra and prettylyf, I pray God sees us, and sends the right men our way. I'll not settle for less, God sees this too.

Shiko, that woman may have all the money, but I bet at night she gets too miserable and lonely. They say money can buy you the best bed and beddings, but not sleep. That is being unreasonable. I should listen to her one of the days. Where?

3TOC, I'm glad you like B2Men. Now I know someone listens.

The virtous woman, she actually does everything while the husband is out boasting of how virtous the wife is. She's very enterprising. But today, can a woman do that and not sing to the man of 'his duties'.

ragskanyi said...

I do agree with you. I find so many 30+ Kenyan ladies in the states complaining that jamaaz don't wanna get serious with them. It's a sad reality, but most jamaaz don't feel like an educated chick who can stand for herself will make a good wife. I of course beg to differ, but thats just me.

antipop said...

hahahaha. the moral of the story is that marriages stink...

petesmama said...

Forgive me, Maua, I'm about to blog on your post.

I believe the key is MODERATION.

Sometimes this feminist business is taken so far it becomes an invisible chip on our shoulders and we are always on the lookout for any male attempt to "dominate and subjugate us".

I have the car, I have the job and I can pay my own way. But I also have a man and it doesn't take rocket science to understand his mind. It is important to him to be respected and to feel like the head of things - and that is not a flaw. I mean, it is important to women to feel like they are being listened to and loved. So it is a matter of a little give and take.

Even when I have made up my mind about something, I will ask Mr. Man for his approval. He is so amazed and grateful that his corporate chick is giving him respect, that he cannot possibly say no to whatever I want. I don't argue with him in public, I don't beat him over the head with my salary and my achievements and I never come back home after him - he always finds me playing the little subjugated wifey, barefoot and in the kitchen. In return I get all the praise, respect and adoration I could ever want. It is a win-win situation!

Some people think I am betraying the powerful corporate chick image, but my happiness and that of my future family is secured. Jobs come and go, companies collapse and degrees go unused, but my relationship is for life - and that is a personal and religious belief.

I just urge some MODERATION to all my sisters. We were created as soft, nurturing beings - ever wonder why the Amazon race of giant women is extinct?

These days anyone can get a degree and climb the corporate ladder, but how many can hold a home together? For me, that is the real challenge.

PS: And you men, don't be making excuses and disrespecting a good woman. We know your mothers came from a generation of homemakers, but we are not your mamas. Times are changing - adjust with them.

Thank you Maua - I promise not to do this again (soon).

Peace said...

@the story: What a woman!

Thank you for this.

Anonymous said...

@petesmama..thats exactly what i feel women need to do!
@wanjiku...as for Carol...that woman girl, she must be one helluva lonely ass bitch!

Kelly said...

I can't say how much I relate / agree with this post. Men get really intimidated by assertive women. I'm assertive on the outside, but quite submissive as a girlfriend, but guess what, the only men I have attracted so far are the heavily dependent types and a married man! It's hard to meet a man who is stronger than me (in character) and really depressing to date a weak dude. It's sweet the first few months, then it gets boring, then most strong character guys want meek women!

I have ranted kidogo there, but I hope I made sense.
Where is a strong man who can handle and won't be threatened by a strong successful woman?

Nubian Queen said...

Caroline Mutoko probably frequents the toy shop for vibrators for no one wants to tap that. A sharp mouth is just too much of a turnoff...i would totally want her to get in my face so i could bitch slap her!!
Sad than men cant take a lil competition ..alpha male and female simply cant get along i will die alone!

Proud Kikuyu Woman said...

Let's be honest-if education and what?-money? professions?-matter to you-our brothers over here are kiasi challenged. Now comes the usual scapegoat for those far from home-race. Maybe that explains why there are more single 'accomplished' (read college educated/professional/money-d) black women than white women. Black-white marriages/romantic relationships are not too common. Especially if it's the woman who is black. White women like 'accomplished' black guys - it's compe roho safi. What to do?
a) pretend, say and live like being with a guy is immaterial
b) Outsource from back home- the easiest option I guess. I know of only 1 guy who left his woman in Kenya and waited like 2 years for her to kuja and even married her. As for women, kuna examples kibao. Unaweza hata wakunywa na straw ukisema uko huko.
c) Accept single hood as another sexual orientation.It can be done-chill!

Acolyte said...

Most women who have made it in the corporate world and such think they walk on air and have big time attitudes. When a dude is too nice to them they say he isnt man enough and run all over him, that is why they end up with bad boys and end up unhappy.
I say lesbianism is the way to go once you get to the top.You get the best of both worlds.

joyunspeakable said...

women....some of them pretend and make themselves angels...they never can hurt a fly...until you know for sure that they keep issues to themselves and hence hurt the relationship more.....i think i like people who talk....like Carol Motoko....too bad....but i talk too...so we could really gel...or?