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Tuesday, 21 October 2008

Mother rewards 13 yr old with cigarettes

If my mum (bless her soul) caught me drinking, smoking, taking drugs and having sex at 13, I guess I’d be dead by now. I had sex for the first time at 19, and I went off men for a number of yrs. I had my first shandy and got drunk at 18. The following day I had a massive hungover with cold sweats and my mum, thinking I had malaria got me chroloquin. It was either that or a confession, but a confession to what, digging a grave for myself.

Any normal mother would go nuts if their 13 yr old confessed to drinking, drugs, smoking and being laid, but Sam Holt’s mother thinks it’s 'sweet' rather than shocking and instead rewards her with cigarettes on the rare occasions when she behave.

Tracy Holt, 43, knows Sam drinks but is just relieved that it's not more than a couple of cans of beer a night. She didn’t get angry about her daughter losing her virginity at 12, instead insisted that Sam uses contraception. It wasn't a one-night stand. She had been dating the guy for a couple of weeks.

'If I ground her, I'm just punishing myself because I have to put up with her in the house. Instead, I reward her good behaviour by giving her cigarettes. If she's bad, she goes without. She's a little comedian. I let her get away with a lot of cheek. It's sweet. Giving out cigarettes as a reward 'works'.

Miss Holt said: 'There are a lot worse things she could be doing’.

What could be so worse than all the above for a 13 yr old.

Here is the story


KK said...

I guess she could be stealing the car and murdering people. All I can say is that while growing up in Nyahururu.... of all places... I knew this 13 year old boy who used to beat up his mother and the siblings and practically wreck havoc if he didn't get his way.

Anonymous said...

God, no. what is this? very bad parenting...doesnt she evn consider the health of that child? as for having sex at 12...i mean, as much as her mum lets her, she is just a child...shame!

joyunspeakable said...

don't know whether to say shame or what....this is outrageous